You are actually siding with the feminists/leftists. That's exactly what they want you to do. They want you to abandon traditional roles and values and marriage for counter-cultural practices. So if you think you are rebelling or displeasing feminists by doing that, you are going to be disappointed. Because each time a man or a woman does that, the feminists/leftists got another win.
I'm a man, but I don't think we got here because of bad things done by men or by women. Leftists pushed certain things, and there are bad examples of both out there. But your solution is just surrender.
Being a gentleman is not being a sap. You control your own behavior, but you aren't obligated to but into any bad behavior. You just act polite and go your own way.
“They want you to abandon traditional roles and values and marriage for counter-cultural practices.”
I haven’t. I have only abandoned rewarding feminists with gentlemanly courtesies that they neither desire nor deserve.
Let me ask you something. If some old 18th century model gentleman encountered a cannibal, stone-age, bone-through-the-nose woman in Papua New Guinea, do you think they would feel obliged to treat them with gentlemanly courtesy? Or would they understand that such a woman had no part in that social contract of courtly behavior?
I view these modern feminists much the same (and some even have the nasal piercings too!).