I've seen the same thing. And when the woman has finally suffered enough, her church has plenty of pious Christians who've never had to face anything like her problems in their own families, ready to shame her for being the victim of adultery and/or abuse, and to accuse her of unChristian-like vindictiveness for refusing to allow herself to go on having her anti-husband keep mocking her faith-filled efforts to single-handedly hold their marriage together.
I’ve witnessed some of that in churches myself. I’ve never understood that kind of thinking.