You know, thing is that most everyone has so much junk
they’ve collected over several years that nobody needs
much of anything. Fang’s mother was a hoarder & it was a
lifetime of hoarding for her that almost became a sickness.
I *think* we have had a few uninvited “visitors” that came
in our house over the past 30 yrs. & helped themselves
to whatever they wanted. Honestly, we have so many clothes
& junk that I may not miss something for years & then I
don’t really miss it. If anyone has to steal to get stuff;
I pity them. - Fang’s mother was SO afraid I was going to
get something of hers that it became funny. She was an
Injun giver (I can say that because I’m Cherokee on both
sides of my family). His mother would “give” us an item;
then a couple of years or so later; she would take a tour
of my house and go around reclaiming all of the junk. I
just finally carted all her stuff down there & piled it on
her enclosed porch. - Fang & I gave & gave & gave to that
woman; but you’d think we NEVER gave her a dime or an item.
(She didn’t have to get old & senile to get like that
either.) I think I’ll just leave a will that states just
sell it ALL & tell our son the money’s his & not to
dishonor us with his choices on what to do with it. I do
not want my husband to sign it all over to his brother &
the Kraut SIL. I don’t hold it against her she’s a German;
but my dad was terribly shell-shocked from the war & I
can’t stomach any flak from her, nor do I want her to snap
up what I’ve worked hard for.
I’m kind of lucky that my in-laws are all deceased.
I told my mom to sell the house and find a smaller place.
She could rent a nice apartment and live off the proceeds from the property sale.
She doesn’t want to though, she loves that place.
I had an aunt who was a real Indian giver type.
We finally stopped taking Christmas and birthday gifts from her.
Sounds like you’ve had a tough time with the in-laws.
Have you ever considered setting up some kind of trust to be administered by your son for the grand kids?
Might work.
Pass it by a lawyer.