The personal attacks against me during the primary finally became so heavy that the state Republican chairman, Gaylord Parkinson, postulated what he called the Eleventh Commandment: Thou shalt not speak ill of any fellow Republican. It's a rule I followed during that campaign and have ever since. --Ronald Reagan
I live in D.C. "Civility" is a term that Alinskyites use to control those who don't have the stomach for a smear campaign. Point out the log in someone else's eye - you are uncivil.
It is exactly through the fear of discussing and dealing with the unseemly that "they" keep the minions in line in the establishment. Everyone can get all four trotters in the trough so long as they don't count trotters in troughs or point out that the high quality feed is coming from the taxpayers who should get their cut on the deal.
Go read P.M. Forni's book "Choosing Civility." One thing he does not advocate as part of civility is dismissing important subjects as lacking civlity because they are unseemly. A key step in civility is recognizing the legitimacy of issues that are bothering folks, discussing them honestly and resolving the issue.
Instead, in the uniparty, the call for "civility" is used to dismiss the issue without discussion.
And so here we are boiling tar and honing the tongs on our pitchforks.