Another suggestion would be to look for military/vet sites. .223 is very closely related to military ammo and you might be able to find a subject matter expert who is/was Military.
(p.s. I suppose asking a jerk not to behave like a jerk is like spitting into the wind...not a high success outcome endeavor).
Everyone can and (me included) act like a jerk on occasion. But real jerks are jerks to the bone and expecting manners out of them is like expecting a bear to not act like a bear.
go data mine these folks....they should know folks in your area to refer you to.
Especially so when you address the angry post to yourself.