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Sorry to hear about your plight but you seem to be handling it exceedingly well and you have the right attitude. As another said on this thread, the best revenge is living well. Do not be consumed with anger as that gives her power over you. Most likely, if she is a typical ex-wife, she'll be consumed with envy and hate when she see's how well you are faring without her. That will be her private hell that she will have to deal with.

I am fortunate to have a very decent marriage to a good woman that is approaching 30 years. But I don't take it for granted. As a man, I realize that at any time, I could return from work to find myself locked out of my house with a restraining order served on me. Not that I would ever harm my wife but I understand that under our legal system, she has the power to lodge an unsubstantiated charge against me for no reason whatsoever and the courts will take her side. She can call a lawyer tomorrow and have a court order against me in hours - no questions asked. And my MIL, who never liked me, would encourage her and give her advice (she was divorced and knows all the ropes). I know men who had this very thing happen to them with no warning whatsoever. The woman decided she "wasn't happy" or she "needed a change" or she needed to "think things through." The woman has all the power and the man must abide by the courts who will invariably rule in her favor.

The upside for men is that we tend to bounce back quickly from these setbacks and start life anew. My observation is that ex-husbands are almost always happier then ex-wives over the long run.

Good luck and keep us posted. I never saw the original thread but I bookmarked it to read later.

The woman decided she "wasn't happy" or she "needed a change" or she needed to "think things through."

See this thread:

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/3432310/posts

and then post #224

and the responce at #277

...you might be surprised at the experiences.