[Dilbert San Diego]

There is a lot we men could say that would get us banned from this site.

I will say this: men are judged, often harshly, by the women in their lives, because they are being judged by subjective and sometimes shifting criteria by the women. The women set the criteria by which the men are to be judged. Then the women get pissed off when the men do not meet the standards set by the women.

Whether the issue is laundry, housework, doing the dishes, care of the children, taking care of the family finances, grocery shopping, you name it, the woman sets criteria by which she judges her husband. And the husband may not meet the high standards set.

I speak from personal experience, so forgive me if this sounds like an over generalization. I’ve heard plenty from male friends about this very subject. Sometimes we feel that nothing we do is ever good enough to suit her.

We don’t vacuum properly. We don’t do dishes properly. We don’t fold laundry the right way. We buy the wrong brand of spaghetti sauce. We deal with the children differently than she would. All of this and more gets on her nerves.

I will close by saying that for me and men I know, we DO NOT judge our wives based on some list of things we wish she did differently. We are happy to be with her. We just don’t set such standards for house work or other chores of life the way women tend to do.

[No Socialist]

Men have a whole different list of what they judge their wives. But good wives should demean their husbands to others.

[Tailback]

Been married 18 years next month and with her for 22 years total. I love my wife and even like being around her all the time still.

That said if something were to happen to her tomorrow... Aneurysm, drunk head on, asteroid, etc...

I will never ever get married again. Marriage 1.0 meant commitment, shared burden, and yes sexual access for the man.

Marriage 2.0 means divorce rape of men, monetary theft of men, blocking of access (of fathers) to their children, insane family courts, and government support of divorce.

If I were 23 years old right now I’d choose MGTOW.

[disndat]

I never babysat my kids. Did it for other people though.

[Stayfree]

being judged by subjective and sometimes shifting criteria by the women. The women set the criteria by which the men are to be judged. Then the women get pissed off when the men do not meet the standards set by the women

Sounds like an often repeated scenario in this household even though going through breast cancer treatment slowed it down for a few years...