Thank you.
I am lost and overwhelmed and do not have all answers.
ANY advice is appreciated.
My Friend no has all the answers - even the best doctors. We are fortunate to live in an age when you can find scads of solid science and medicine information in an instant.
1 Will, trust fund(s) are better which are not subject to probate as a Will is, has lawsuit protections in them.
2 Living Will stating her wishes
3 take her name off all assets ASAP
4 write out a list of who gets what have it notarized
5 find a good hospice service check them out with the BBB for stand by
6 talk about it, and what she wants for final arrangements from music, service, clothes, etc. Tough job, but it needs doing.
This is Joey Feek’s 3 bouts of cancer journey. It may give you some insight. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZoDUYhweFbg
Prayers up for you both! Biggest 1 of them all that she knows where she is headed Heaven in the worse case, and you will join her. Love her all you can, be with her all you can. She wins either way.
I know those are not the things you want to hear, we went through this with both my parents, Lung Cancer. My 91 yr old BIL is going through advanced Prostate Cancer that has metastasized into his bones, congestive heart issues; and his 2 kids butt heads constantly over his care. The son who is there is the best informed and very business savvy. While his daughter is one of those Cali Lib Feminist who wants to run everything from Tarzana, Cali. Thinks because she is married to the ‘fake’ doc from Love Boat she is an expert in medical. He goes for a radiation treatment next week, for pain, it’s just a matter of time now.
They don’t call in Hospice until all treatment stops, then another layer of medical care kicks in that is not covered by Ins or Medicare. But choose that fully informed as there are shady ones out there.