Thank you. Not sure how to navigate the road ahead.
If you pray, the Lord will lead you. My sister was just diagnosed with leukemia. I told her - as with my mom - it is like getting on a plane thinking you are going to France and they drop you in Pakistan. You don’t want to be there, you don’t speak the language, you hate the food. AND you cannot leave. So sorry about your wife. I thot those sites another FReeper posted were very helpful.
I also found the Chaplain at the hospital, when my mom died, VERY helpful. He knew the legal ropes, people to contact for help, etc.