Not accusing... I just think many who have wives who never put out, are husbands who think they shouldn't have to woo them. We all get lazy and have to be reminded how good it was when we put energy into building for it, instead of just trying to skip right to it. :~D
I think there is lack of wooing often on both sides. Something else I've noticed. I've seen couples who live together 5, 10, 20 years decide to tie the knot to become honest couples. 6 months to a year later they divorce. Can't get along. Why could they do it before the ring and not after?