if we had not intervened and placed a feeding tube in her, she would have died - period.
Why is removing someone from a respirator at the end of life considered ok but removing a feeding tube isn't? Isn't air just as important to food when it comes down to "living"? They are both artificial means of life support.
Also, I am up at the nursing home four nights a week helping to feed my grandma who has alzheimers, should I just stop feeding her?