Why So Many Women Cheat on Their Husbands

New York Magazine ^

[mountn man]

Some women are ruled by their emotions and change like the wind, and then blame the man, that he didn't meet her emotional needs.

There are 2 people involved in a marriage relationship.
2 people are required to work at it.

When I see the largest reason for divorce is "basic incompatibility", and that by far the largest pursuers of divorce are those who change THEIR rules regularly, then I don't see 2 people working at it.

There are memes for a reason. If they weren't based in a semblance of truth, then they wouldn't be funny (or memes).

The first is

We all laugh at these. But let's be honest. That is often how people act and treat the other.

When one demographic files predominantly more than the other, for "compatibility", this is what they are saying "YOU'RE wrong".

We ALWAYS hear about a womans nature and how a man needs to... blah, blah, blah.

How often do we hear about a mans nature, and how a woman needs to...?

Next is this:

What is sad is, that while men say this, their wives or other women will agree, or state it themselves.

We have women today who think life revolves around them and their wants, desires and "needs".

Memes are a good snapshot into the psyche of a society.
They are a generalization,
Not a specific.

Beware of any woman who displays this attitude.

[IamConservative]

...and if Momma ain't happy for long enough, you gonna be unhappy with half your stuff.

[Architect of Avalon]

“Happy husband” rhymes with “ironclad premarital contract”.

[rb22982]

Less than half, if you have to pay alimony.

[Architect of Avalon]

The wife often gets more than half of marital assets based on the husband being able to earn more money after the divorce.

That, like alimony, is ownership by an ex-wife of their ex-husband’s labor.

It is slavery.

[mountn man]

“Happy husband” rhymes with “ironclad premarital contract”.

In divorce court, there is no such thing as an ironclad premarital contract...
Unless of course it's the womans.

[Crusher138]

I have a brother in Christ going through a divorce right now because of an unfaithful wife. He found out about her infidelity months ago and confronted her. She claimed to have regretted the “mistake” and promised to break it off. He later finds out that she had no intention of ending the affair and used the time to rack up debt and empty some joint accounts.

He is devastated. They have three teenage children who are torn in their feelings towards their parents. As far as I know he did all the right things - made his family a priority in his time, worked out and kept in shape, made a lot of money and attended church and bible study regularly. She was a stay at home mom who didn’t stay at home. She claims she got bored.

Very sad.

[Yaelle]

It is so stupid. Feminism is stupid. Gender roles were important once. I notice that transgenders often LOVE the traditional gender roles, have you? They DREAM of being that kind of masculine or feminine. And no one has a problem with transgender women looking like Col Klinger. What is wrong with us that we have turned from nature?

(Not that I don’t think men can be nurses and women doctors or whatever.)

[rb22982]

I’ve heard of a NUMBER of similar stories to yours from my parents that go to one of the most popular churches in their town (~10-15k ppl go there)

[rollo tomasi]

There are no excuses for adultery, period by men or women. Get a divorce, but don't expose another person to potential STDs, emotional abuse, lies, manipulation, and soul rape.

[Ted Grant]

It’s not feminism, folks. And morality isn’t probative as much as we like to think.

I think it’s a combination of having an opportunity with someone a person finds attractive & sexually appealing, the calculated probability of success without exposure, and the calculated probability of minimizing it & winning forgiveness without life-altering incident.

I think in many instances, the truthful answer to “why” is “it seemed like a good idea at the time.” He or she will be wrong, but it probaby did seem like a good idea at the time.

I think establishing & holding on to strong boundaries is the best defense against these situations.

I know my analysis is unpopular, but I’m sticking with it.

[Ted Grant]

A very difficult situation, but his best play upon discovery is to send her packing.

It’s all fun & games until real consequences are enforced. His first (and last) mistake was accepting her initial excuses.

They might have had a chance if she was served with divorce papers at work or at home (or at Church). As for me, it’s not worth the hard work to put a relationship back together with a cheater. It’s just a bad decision.

[rollo tomasi]

Dave the polygamists lost his first son with Bathsheba (Payment for Uriah), kingdom went to hell, one of his sons named Absalom pulled a train through David’s concubine along with his wives, one other son became an abomination of desolation, his people lived in misery etc...This was a condition sent forth by God as a punishment. The only reason David remained alive was due to the fact that Uriah was dead. Only the prophet Nathan knew what David did. God allowed David to live, but at a heavy price and David was miserable for the rest of his life.

[wgmalabama]

Having 2 adult 20 something sons is a window into how 20 something girls have been raised. Too many RAP ( redneck American princesses ) in this part of the world. If these girls’ daddies wanted them to never marry and be happy, they couldn’t have done a better job. It’s absolutely amazing these young women can’t cook can’t do house work can’t earn their own spending requirements can’t be bothered to even be nice. Heads stuck in their phones living off the opiates of online drama and connections (notice I didn’t say friends). It’s really quite pathetic and if I was in my sons shoes as a man in my 20s I would have nothing to do with them either

[Architect of Avalon]

Will he pursue custody?

Will he get the home?

[Architect of Avalon]

I’m of the view that adultery, as with other ways of causing direct harm, ends the marriage immediately even if the legal divorce takes a while.

[rb22982]

Fits the description of my 30 year old single SIL to the T.

[minnesota_bound]

We logically need at least 1,000 interviews to learn something about adultery.

And their phone numbers and if they like walks in the park, fireplaces and rain etc.

[Bodleian_Girl]

Yes, he was.

[Celerity]

“I judge you. I look down upon you, since I am superior to you in every way.”

There is actually an FR Ping list for this !

A lot of people behave this way.