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Why So Many Women Cheat on Their Husbands
New York Magazine ^

Posted on 09/21/2017 9:16:10 PM PDT by nickcarraway

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To: nickcarraway

When you boil it down, it’s like a stiff reality that results in the desired outcome.

Quite simple.


41 posted on 09/21/2017 11:09:26 PM PDT by soycd
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To: nickcarraway

[[Why So Many Women Cheat on Their Husbands]]

Because they are horny, lust driven, sluts- period- same reason men cheat on their wives


42 posted on 09/21/2017 11:24:11 PM PDT by Bob434
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To: nickcarraway

What a bullshit feminist screed

Who wrote this crap

Let me guess

Not married

Urban

Careerist

Not Christian raised

I’m guessing secular “other”

Tell me I’m wrong

Yep....looked her up

This is a kernel of hers

“Better sex if division of labor in a marriage is equal”

Then get her ass out there behind the plow honey...

She’s a sexually frustrated witch who lacks a good parade of phallic lain orgasms

Any writer male or female who thinks the wife getting some strange is somehow conducive to a good lasting marriage is a moonbat and ignorant of marriage herself

Worst image a man can have short of the violent death of a child God forbid is that of little Wifey in a hotel room far from home with her dainty ankles pinned back and wings wide open while some other hard leg is pouring the coal to it and she’s moaning and back clawing and chest biting while he goes places no man has gone before and she peels off wave after wave of major O

That my friends is exactly the fear a man has if he thinks she’s running afoul of her fidelity

It can kill a man....

It sure as hell ain’t good for a marriage....it’s the worst thing for a marriage except for pervs and freaks

It’s visceral for men...your mind will run away from ya...make you do bad things and go to the penitentiary

Nope..it isn’t good

Tell me I’m lying men.

I don’t know if it’s the same imagery for wives on cheating husbands but it sure devastates them too

This is all why your truly has always refrained from opportunities even at times when I may have felt justified

I will never allow myself to be the victim of a woman who’s left me again though and I never did...not since 1980

It’s too painful to sit and suffer

Go and find another one....it’s the proper antibiotic for cheating heartbrokenness

Anybody remember Jill Clayburgh in that movie when her jerk hubby gets caught.....Unmarried Woman....she vomits on the street in Manhattan

Well hell yes she does....it’s gut wrenching


43 posted on 09/21/2017 11:49:51 PM PDT by wardaddy (Virtue signalers should be shot on sight...conservative ones racked and hanged then fed to dogs)
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To: nickcarraway

I’d guess that more honest reporting (less social stigma or shame) accounts for a good bit.

For quite a while there was a wide discrepancy believed to exist on how calories affected men and women, until it was realized that women much more widely under-reported how much they ate. As much as men may have been stereotyped as being more widely unfaithful in the past, they were overwhelmingly doing so with women, who apparently didn’t count in the stats somehow (not homosexually).

But other factors could include that it is just easier nowadays with tinder and a general hookup/one night stand “dating” culture. A decline in religious observance and moral education has its effect as well.

Also, with more women working and making more money, they have more means to support outside activities, have more interactions/opportunities, and face less severe financial consequences if the marriage collapses from their infidelity.


44 posted on 09/21/2017 11:50:27 PM PDT by BeauBo
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To: nickcarraway

Why So Many Women Cheat on Their Husbands?

Because they are horny?

No, too obvious.


45 posted on 09/21/2017 11:52:23 PM PDT by BeauBo
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To: nickcarraway

Once again, all the post-ers above nailed it. Thank you, FR

My 2 cents:
For nearly all of these women, if the men “fixed” the relationship in one direction, the women would find them lacking in another, such as “too horny” or “not helping with the kids/housework/earning/social-life enough.” The men can do nothing - they’re powerless - and that’s exactly what is driving these women - thanks to feminism, the cheap grace of modern “Christianity”, and a certain fallen angel whispering in their ears.

“they found married life incredibly dull and constraining” - if nothing changes in them, the next life will not be so pleasurable for them either.


46 posted on 09/22/2017 2:32:14 AM PDT by ReaganGeneration2
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To: sagar

I would be careful with that statistic. Yes, divorce is too high. But those who get divorced often get divorced multiple times.

Then there are those of us who accept our life sentence like men. (Do I need to target this as sarcasm?)


47 posted on 09/22/2017 2:42:35 AM PDT by Vermont Lt (Burn. It. Down.)
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To: nickcarraway

Also, don’t forget that for every cheating woman, a cheating man exists. That man, married or unmarried, is this scourge too.


48 posted on 09/22/2017 2:47:52 AM PDT by ReaganGeneration2
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To: nickcarraway
In an earlier generation, this might have taken the form of separation or divorce, but now, it seemed, more and more women were unwilling to abandon the marriages and families they’d built over years or decades. They were also unwilling to bear the stigma of a publicly open marriage or to go through the effort of negotiating such a complex arrangement. These women were turning to infidelity not as a way to explode a marriage, but as a way to stay in it.

Lies and fraud. They're the recipient of stolen goods.

49 posted on 09/22/2017 3:02:14 AM PDT by gogeo (Trump appears to be working 18 hours per day while congress canÂ’t seem to get in 18 hours per week.)
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To: sparklite2
They compared theirs to Ozzie’s and got out.

Except it's women who file for divorce 70% of the time.

The real reason is, no-fault divorces began in 1970. Making it easy for people to bail for any and all reasons.

The 60's was the era of "free""love".

The 70's became the era of free stuff, after the free lovin.

50 posted on 09/22/2017 3:02:34 AM PDT by mountn man (The Pleasure You Get From Life, Is Equal To The Attitude You Put Into It)
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To: Southack

They do it because it is easy, and they always have an army of white knights in the wings to make girly excuses for them.


51 posted on 09/22/2017 3:16:30 AM PDT by VanDeKoik
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To: bitt

Plenty of guys here will tell you stories of their “conservative” ex-wives that forgot about their values.


52 posted on 09/22/2017 3:19:43 AM PDT by VanDeKoik
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To: sparklite2

“... sixties”

20,060 BC.


53 posted on 09/22/2017 3:20:10 AM PDT by mad_as_he$$ (Not my circus. Not my monkeys.)
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To: bitt

Yes. And most conservative women voted for a guy who has had 5 children with 3 different women. So who these women voted for doesn’t really correlate their values.


54 posted on 09/22/2017 3:39:04 AM PDT by bigdaddy45
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To: sparklite2
There is a correlation between equal division of labor and better sex. “I think there’s an incredible amount of deep resentment for women in America about divisions of labor,” said sociologist Lisa Wade when I asked her to comment on this contradiction. “And what social scientists are finding now is that there is a correlation between equal division of labor and better sex.”

The problem might just be that women raise their sons & daughters differently, ie. they raise their sons in a more traditional fashion while telling their daughters, "you can have it all." 2 vastly different outlooks on marriage are created.

55 posted on 09/22/2017 3:48:27 AM PDT by Tallguy (Twitter short-circuits common sense. Please engage your brain before tweeting.)
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To: nickcarraway

What the writers of the book and article fail to focus on: extramarital affairs are first and foremost about LYING. These affairs are not about sex, not about unmet needs, not about romance-—they are about LYING plain and simple. These women who cheat on their husbands are liars and deceivers, shame shame shame on them.

These narcissistic women may be getting away with their double lives for now, but eventually their false lives will catch up with them. When that happens, entire networks of family and friends will be hurt and/or destroyed. It’s not just the husband and the children who suffer because of a faithless selfish wife.


56 posted on 09/22/2017 3:54:07 AM PDT by RooRoobird20 ("Democrats haven't been this angry since Republicans freed the slaves.")
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To: sparklite2
The Pill took a lot of risk out of it.

Read a stat that a British researcher found that 25% of all children born during the war years, were sired by another man (not their legal father). Think about that. There was no "Pill" then. And even if you try to discount for the absences caused by husbands serving overseas, it's still a helluva number.

57 posted on 09/22/2017 3:55:04 AM PDT by Tallguy (Twitter short-circuits common sense. Please engage your brain before tweeting.)
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To: Perseverando

Meanwhile, where God is at the center of a marriage, and the goal is to grow in being Christlike, and more selfless, more giving, more loving, marriages are thriving.

In contrast to the “Me! Me! Me!” marriages of the unbelieving, these marriages even get better every year - in every way. Yes, even in the sex. Why should it too not get better as a couple that love God and one another grow in knowing one another and understanding one another?

Where “May He increase, may I decrease...” is a way of life, marriage is not perfect, but is on a non-stop path toward becoming perfect. The perfect will never be attained of course, until we see His face. But we are on the path.

God is good.


58 posted on 09/22/2017 3:58:05 AM PDT by Arlis
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To: nickcarraway

They want to have their cake and to eat it too—like so many men.


59 posted on 09/22/2017 3:58:36 AM PDT by 9YearLurker
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To: wardaddy

Amen, Bro. Well stated truth. THIS is what happens in the minds of men who’s wives cheat on them.

It is a soul crusher!

“Therefore now they are not two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder. “
—Jesus


60 posted on 09/22/2017 4:17:34 AM PDT by Alas Babylon! (Keep fighting the Left and their Fake News!)
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