Most of us "old marrieds" find our wives very attractive, even after many years of marriage (after 17 years here...at 40, She-who-must-be-obeyed commands a presence in a room like very few others, both older and younger).
At the same time, She-who-must-be-obeyed has said that I can look at the menu all I want -- just as long as I don't order...
Now you ....have a very intelligent wife to boot!