Aren't we all dying? Inevitably, life will come to an end for each of us, no matter what we do. I do not believe that the shielding someone gets from criticism should be related to the speed at which that person is meeting the end.
You make a choice in life about how to deal with people. She is clearly not thinking right here and making an issue of something so pathetic doesn’t make anyone right. It propagates the ridiculous and the foolishness.