There are some colleges which do allow opposite sex roommates. May be hard to believe, but we went from co-ed dorms where the individual rooms had residents only of the same sex, to now saying that the sex of roommates doesn’t matter.
And, have heard that some of these students say that, just because you have opposite sex roommates, it doesn’t mean that somebody is having a sexual relationship, and that we shouldn’t jump to those conclusions.
Bottom line is that these young people in these colleges and dorms think the older generation has too many “hang-ups” about these living arrangements.
It’s hard to believe that there was a time when dorms were stricly segregated by sex, and that there were strict limits on visitation by the opposite sex in the dorms.
Guess I’m old! Young men should not have to deal with living in close quarters with young women at that age. Most think of the safety of the young women, but I have a son and I could see this as a problem for him!
<Bottom line is that these young people in these colleges and dorms think the older generation has too many “hang-ups” about these living arrangements.
Nothing new. When I went to college in the ‘70s, we had coed dorms with boy-girl-boy-girl room assignments. I begged my parents to let me live in one of those arrangements, rather than a girls’ dorm. Having come from an all girls prep school, I was ready to see some guys! Plus, as I reasoned at the time, if I got an apartment, my parents couldn’t regulate who lived next door to me.
We didn’t have quiet hours, no locks on the doors to the building, everything free and easy.
Well, fast forward and my son ends up at the same school in the mid 1990s. Now they had quiet hours, all kinds of building security, sexes by floor rather than by room. I recently asked my son if he had felt restricted by all this and he said no, it was nice to know there were enforceable quiet hours to make sure people shut up and he didn’t need to see girls in the bathroom.
Some things sound really cool at the time, but living in close quarters, with a bunch of young people, and with no rules is pretty much a recipe for disaster.
Just a note, there was some sexual activity amongst dorm mates, but not as much as you’d think. Maybe too close contact, but also a feeling that we were all friends, and not ‘hook ups.’ It’s awful hard to break up and not have a lot of drama when your significant other lives on the same floor.