“How do you read?”
Not nearly as good as my kids, but then I made sure that they were taught pure phonics. I got the diluted version, and then only because they were forced to teach me sounds due a bad speech problem. My sister wasn’t as lucky, and she’s angry to this day that they didn’t teach her phonics (and yes, it has hurt her career-wise).
Do you read phonetically?”
Yep, when I see a word like “etymology”...and when I was first learning, EVERY word looked like that. I had to think and sound them out, all of them - at the beginning.
As to how you were taught, I very much doubt that your mother didn’t have you sounding out words (in other words, you weren’t learn the shapes of words with no clue regarding sounds). I suspect the hard part was going back to the fundamental sounds because she likely didn’t teach you that...instead she started with the complete words and had you mentally break them into sounds.
No. I didn’t sound out words when I was three. I learned words that she’d written up as flash cards. I learned them by sight, not by sound. She would go through the deck and couldn’t believe how fast I learned them. She had to keep adding to the deck because I was outpacing what she thought a child of three could learn.
She learned to do that, when she worked with disabled children at a school as a teacher’s helper. She wasn’t a school teacher herself. But, she’d seen other teachers do it with children, and she thought I could do it too. She was right.
Would I be a grammar nazi if I hoped that your children wrote better as well? Good is an adjective, it modifies nouns. To read is an action, so it would require an adverb that modifies a verb. You don't read nearly as well as your kids.
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