I will have been married 20 years this August, and I COMPLETELY disagree with the psychologist.
My husband hasn’t worn his wedding band since the day we got married (although it’s not like he doesn’t know where it is). The reason he NEVER wears his wedding ring has absolutely NOTHING to do with him wanting to “appear single” and EVERYTHING to do with the fact that if he forgot to take it off before work one day he might come home missing a finger or worse... BLUE-COLLAR WORKING men CAN’T be *wearing jewelry* all the time otherwise they wouldn’t be RESPONSIBLE providers - what with risking permanent inability to do their job and winding up on disability and all... IMHO this psychologist is one of those people who sits in their ivory tower proscribing judgement on issues he knows absolutely nothing about...
Doesn’t bother me a bit, and never has that he doesn’t wear his/our ring - maybe I’m just a VERY lucky woman that can actually trust her husband??? [I’m guessing this man thinks there are NO men in the world who AREN’T always thinking with their privates...]
“IMHO this psychologist is one of those people who sits in their ivory tower proscribing judgement on issues he knows absolutely nothing about...”
Agreed. My father will be 82 tomorrow. He was a supervisor in a steel mill. He never had a ring and wouldn’t have worn it if he did. He made it very clear how dangerous they are. (The grief I got over high heels, too!) My husband is a pilot. A peer lost his finger when he missed his footing exiting a plane. Neither of us wear our wedding rings. Neither of us worry for a minute about the other one cheating. Both of us actually have a fear of God.
I should have clarified it to exclude taking it off for work. I’ve worked jobs too where I couldn’t have worn it but they were before I was married. The guy in the OP said he has never worn his, EVER. To me, barring a work hazard, the only reason to want to appear single is to be able to claim you’re single. That’s great if you’re okay with your husband not wearing his. Really.