Posted on 07/11/2013 8:27:58 AM PDT by Sopater
Yes, definitely. But hear me out.
Every homeschooling parent knows about the S wordsocialization. Weve all had conversations with concerned relatives who wonder if our kids are being properly socialized. Read any article about homeschooling in a mainstream media source and inevitably, the comments section will fill up with concerns about it. Never mind that we also talk about socializing puppies or that its something we do at after-work Happy Hours, and that children who are caught socializing too much in school are reprimanded. People who dont know anything about the homeschooling family down the street have grave concerns about whether those children are being properly socialized.
By socialization, many of these folks are really wondering if the kids will grow up to be weird or odd somehow. There are two basic assumptionsfalse assumptionsthat people make when considering homeschoolers and the threat of weird personalities that arise because of a lack of socialization.
The first assumption is that anyone can adequately define weird.
If you were the homecoming queen who was named Miss Congeniality in your high school yearbook and went on to have a daughter who followed in your footsteps, you will have a very specific image in your mind of how a normal high school kid should look and act. Likewise, if you were the gym rat who majored in football.
On the other hand, if you were the shy, shaggy-haired boy who eschewed grooming and spent your high school lunch hour playing Dungeons and Dragons, your categories for weird and normal will skew a little differently than Joe Footballs categories. Beauty and normal are in the eye of the beholder. And contrary to the persistent Duggar-style stereotype, homeschoolers come in all shapes, sizes, and personality types. There are the jocks, the hipsters, the computer geeks, and the goth kids (although you will find plenty who actually are just like the Duggars).
The second assumption is that homeschooling causes children to become odd or socially awkward. Most critics who make that assumption or hurl the accusation dont know (or ignore) the growing body of research to the contrary demonstrating that homeschooled children grow up to be normal, well-adjusted adults. Far from being socially isolated, the average homeschooled child participates in 5.2 activities outside the home every week.
While there are plenty of homeschooled kids who seem odd by homecoming queen standards, there are plenty of kids in public school who also fit that category. On what shall we blame their awkward behavior? How do we explain so many students who dont fit in at school and struggle at the margins of social acceptance? Bullies pounce on every aberration of what is considered acceptable behavior by the in crowd and weird kids who dont conform are kicked to the curb. Many families whose children are victims of school bullying actually turn to homeschooling to protect their kids from the violence and emotional harm they experienced in school.
Ultimately, weird people exist in every walk of life, regardless of the childs educational background. My personal (admittedly anecdotal) theory is that children generally turn out to be a lot like their parents, regardless of whether or not they attended school. The offspring of geeky parents who revel in marathon sci-fi movie weekends and go all out for Renaissance fairs complete with custom made costumes are going to produce children who have similar interests. Public school probably cannot cure the children coming from that level of ingrained geek culture at home. Parents who live for sports and start their kids in soccer and t-ball at age 4, spending their evenings and weekends shuttling the kiddos from one practice to another, are generally (not always, but generally) going to have children who enjoy and participate in sports as they get older, regardless of their schooling choices.
So will your kids grow up to be weird if you homeschool them? Yes, definitely. Someone right now, this very minute thinks you are weird because you are not like them. And someone will think your children are weird for the same reason. But the way you choose to educate them will not be the cause.
Socialization
Homeschooling is most frequently criticized about this. Here's how I typically respond:
Once a week I push my kid up against the wall and steal his lunch money... He's perfectly socialized.
Also.....It means less “drama” for the colleges to deal with.
Homeschoolers being so well adjusted and morally well-grounded don't have as many socially and emotionally draining and upsetting “issues” in their lives.
The “socialization” learned in school is prison gang “socialization” survival skills!
These pathologic coping mechanisms **must** be unlearned to have any success in life. Thankfully, most do put aside these dysfunctional school socialization habits and move on to healthier work and home relationships. Sadly, some do not.
You got that right.
The Government only knows how to operate armies and prisons.
No surprise that prisons are the model for public school socialization.
Pathological coping mechanisms, indeed.
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