” America worked best when the government was not involved in the charity. “
I agree with you on this.
Nobody is talking about combat-wounded being denied support - we should be worried about this. If we do not reign in government checks to the overwhelming majority of Americans who benefit from them, the day will come (who knows when specifically) when the checks for even catastrophically wounded veterans will stop (or become worthless)
That is when we will all need to reclaim the spirit of charity that, as you point out, has been co-opted and destroyed by government.