There are some Freepers who like to bleat that they have been married multiple times and seem to think it’s some kind of badge of honor (as if to say that they have proved more than one woman thought they were the cat’s meow).
What it instead tells me that a) they have extremely poor judgment in their choice of mates, and b) they don’t honor their promises, i.e., “to have and to hold from this day forth.”
It gives insight into how loyal of a friend that person might be.
As a person who was divorced once I can say I am not proud of it. I divorced years ago (20 odd years ago) when I was young, stupid, and not on a clear path with God. Since then I have gotten right with Him and remarried. Not a day goes by I do not think about my mistake and the ramifications it had on me, the ex, and others. Btw, I did not divorce for another woman. Would I undo it? Not with what I know now and since I have two children and an adopted one from my second marriage. I have to constantly be reaffirmed that God will forgive me and live in guilt every day for the decisions I made when I was stupid and arrogant.
I won’t even get into the effects the divorce had on me financially and with other relationships (2 children from that marriage). Luckily, my two kids from the first have turned out great since I made sure they spent all the time I could with me from day one.
Bottom line, it still haunts me.
“There are some FReepers who like to bleat that they have been married multiple times...”
After I wrote my comment, I wanted to make a clarification. I am not saying that divorce is always wicked, evil etc.. I have known both men and women who divorced and to be honest.. they SHOULD have divorced. One man I know recently divorced ignored his wife’s constant infidelities until she finally left him. A woman I know suffered a broken jaw, broken eye socket etc.. till she left his sorry butt. My initial point was simply to say that the % of divorces seems high to me. I have know some FReepers and others who divorced and then found a stable, good person and remarried. **I just wanted to clarify for FR.
Not to imply that I am in any way better than anyone else, but I am very content to have been married to one woman, and to have been with her for 35 years. I have no interest in making any changes to my relationship with my wife. We’ve had good times, and bad. But, we believe in the vows we made to each other all those many years ago.