I am sorry but when you continually unload on people telling them you do not want them in your life you are not allowed to just turn around and say, "ok I need you to come take care of me now."
As my dad would say, you need to dig your well before you are thirsty. If she had reached out two years ago and attempted a relationship then, that would be one thing. This just makes her look like a user.
Many kids today are users. Step away parents. Ind someone to care for you who likes you.
If she wants wedding advice, she can pick up the phone. If her father thinks someone should go stay with her, take care of the child, and all, he could go.