Posted on 09/27/2004 10:49:05 AM PDT by kiki04
OK, here it goes. A friend of mine in PA was going through a nasty custody battle. The father didn't want the children at all until this past spring. Her 4 year old daughter told her that her daddy was touching her. After trips to the doctor and forensic psychologist, it was confirmed that there was digital genital abuse. This was revealed in August, and a detective still has her case. While this is going on, he is still fighting for custody. It was recommended by CYS that he not see the kids at all, but the judge gave him supervised CYS visits once a week. His lawyer (the custody, not the criminal) filed to have the little girl not in therapy because it would cantaminate the case. She is afraid if the DA doesn't press charges soon, he will be able to hurt the daughter again, and do worse the next time. She is also out of money and can't afford her lawyer (custody lawyer) anymore.
Any idea of how long it takes the DA to file charges? I know the ex-husband has a really good criminal attorney, his family is supporting him.
What will happen when the DA files charges?
Do these cases go to court, or often dismissed?
They have the recorded disclosure by her daughter and examinations by 3 psychologists.
This is the worste thing her family has ever gone through and as it is dragged out it is really taking a toll on her and the children.
You can't sue a judge for gross negligence.
But you can threaten both the father and his family with a civil suit of assault and battery. Perhaps a lawyer would take this on a contingency.
Couples with children should not be allowed to divorce, period.
I know, I have seen it around. With her, she was glad he was taking the kids for a while, her oldest is special needs. She loved that she had a few hours to herself twice a week. I can tell you this woman isn't out to get him.
I took my kids to the ocean last summer. My five year old was wearing a loose suit and got a bunch of jellyfish stinging her inside her suit. I shudder to think what could be assembled from a bitter spouse of that incident by the time the psychologists got thru with it. Good thing I space my kids out every six years. At least there is always one as a reliable witness. It's hard to coerce a twelve year old into anything without a promise of a trip to the mall.
There is NO way to "confirm" this with a 4 year old. A lot of these child psychologists (and the people who trained them) have an agenda, and use extremely leading questioning and props to get the answers they want out of the poor little kid. Have you ever seend the "anatomically correct" dolls they use? It's like one of those "put the round peg in the round hole" toys, only the gaping holes and huge "pegs" are so obvious and startling on a doll, that a young child quickly figures out what the shrink want him/her to do with them. By the time a young child has been through one of these brainwashing sessions, they're often really (and permanently) not able to distinguish what really did or didn't happen from the story they were led into telling -- just as young children often can't distinguish between something that really happened and a dream.
Unless this father has a confirmed history of this type of abuse (i.e. with real physical evidence and/or much older children), assume that it didn't happen.
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