Posted on 02/16/2005 7:34:02 AM PST by Lazamataz
All the older guys I know, guys that are 55 and older are telling me the same story; don't do it. It just turns to crap no matter what you do. They'd rather be independent. At best it's a tedious bore. At worst a living hell with financial ruin thrown in for good measure. The problem is that when you're young, you just naturally fall into this mind set where your whole self image is based on how women regard you, and so you spend all your money and energy trying to make yourself acceptable to them. Then later in life the shine wears off and you finally realize that you've wasted yourself on a bunch of crap.
Children - "the ultimate human experience" I couldn't even begin to list all of the older folks i know from work or through my family with kids they either don't get along with, are disappointed in, or are so distant as to not even be a factor in each other's lives.
I'm really skeptical about the idea of children as "the ultimate blessing." How many friends do you have with little or no meaningful contact or relationships with their parents?
I would wager the statistic for happy child/parent relations would be as bad, if not worse, than the marriage numbers. Who wants to deal with TWO bitter, unfulfilling relationships?!
Marriage is a sham for men. There is no benefit. If you are about to get married, think it over. Don't let your **** do your thinking for you. Don't let your punch-drunk I'm in love euphoria put you on auto-pilot. You will wake up in a hell of a hangover staring at this woman who will control your life.
A few years ago I went through a major depression over this until I started talking to all the older guys I knew...and they all said the same thing; "don't do it, it's crap. Even when it's not bad, it's crap". You end up being closely tied to an old woman. Think about that. I can go to Europe or the south seas tomorrow. If I was married I wouldn't have the money and I'd have to ask HER permission. Don't get married unless you are absolutely religiously in love with her. Like carry her sick aged body to the toilet and wipe her butt and be happy to do it kind of love.
What I'm saying is that human beings are nasty weak treacherous creatures that are for the most part totally untrustworthy. Experience is my basis for this statement, both mine and others who I know or who have written reliable histories. If you can find a woman to be your companion who is not treacherous, a deceitful little actress, a sly whore or a manipulative nag or a shrieking hag, then you are among the lucky few. Congratulations. I hope your luck continues to hold out.
Ok, assume that you will end up divorced and won't see your kids and lose half of your assets, how different is that from being married?
Most married guys I know are working their butts off to pay bills, rarely to get to spend time with their families, mediocre or no sex life, and have wives that spend as much of their money as absolutely possible.
My problem with marriage isn't a fear of divorce; it is that the whole thing sucks divorce or not.
What security is there for men in marriage? If I cheat on my wife, she gets half my stuff. If she cheats on me, she still gets half my stuff. Why the heck should i get married?
Screw it man, it's easy to get depressed about not being married when we live in a society that constantly feeds us the image of the happy couple. It's one big lie. The happiest person alive is someone who isn't a prisoner dependent on another human being... We only have 80 or so years on this rock to achieve true freedom.
Very few marriages last nowadays, and even guys older than me are telling me not to even think about it... It's a grossly overrated source of happiness. And for the 80% that do go through divorce, it will financially ruin you for life. Period. You can take your best 10 earning years from say, 35 to 45 and take all the wealth you would have accumulated and flush it down the toilet. Because it will go to her and her lawyer. If it happens naturally and it's good then great, good luck. But the worst thing is to force it, to make gross exertions and ignore all sorts of red lights going off just to be hooked up and "normal". Get some hobbies. Relax. Hang out. Enjoy. Take life as it comes.
As men, we all know that a woman's primary objective is to marry. After years of experience I've discovered their most commonly used strategy. here it is:
1. Girl pressures guy for marriage.
2. Guy delays.
3. Girl gradually starts destroying guy's self-esteem and eliminating his friends.
4. Guy becomes too weak and too much of a loser to find something better than what he has.
5. Girl starts to limit sex. In effect controlling the only good thing in the guy's life.
6. Guy is in despair. Capitulates to marriage.
Then 5-10 years later the guy is an empty shell of his former self. Girl is a ruthless manipulating machine. Girl divorces loser husband. Girl takes 80% of guy's stuff because the guy is too brain dead to find a good lawyer. Girl lives happily ever after. Guy becomes bald alcoholic who dies of heart attack at 45 years old.
My grandfather sat me down and told me to be single for the rest of my life, and to raise my children the same way.
Grandma wasn't happy about that one.
Sounds like a mewling metrosexual to me.
My wife: "You just do whatever you want to, when you want to. RIGHT!?"
Me: "You betcha."
Been married 15 years and finally whipped her into shape!
Denny Crane: "There are two places to find the truth. First God and then Fox News."
This is a load of sheetrock mud.
;-)
hahaha....
Don't get the wrong woman pregnant either. You and your kids
will pay for the rest of your lives. Don't ask me how I know
this.
I'm sure if this jerk (and jerks like him) ever did marry, it would end up in divorce with the kids (if he deigned to further his jerky genes) having little if anything to do with him. Self-fullfilling prophecy.
If two people--male or female or both--are incredibly negative and incredibly selfish, marriage and the reponsibilities of having children come into this world are a recipe for disaster.
Nomarriage.com... An organziation made up of LOSERS in the game of life. LOL
Way too easy.
1. Love is swell, but to many people settle for sex. Don't get married unless you are ready to begin a family.
2. Don't get married to somebody you don't get along with well enough to stay the course. If she belittles you now when she doesn't get her way, it will only be worse after you get married.
How do you know that?
Well, thanks for the really cherry post.
I feel a lot better now.
As I heard in the movie "IN GOOD COMPANY" the secret to a good marriage is finding the right person to be in the foxhole with and keeping your thing in your pants when you're out in the world.
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I fully agree that the author should avoid marriage like the plague. This author would do better to dive into a concrete dam as it's being poured than to marry.
Does the fool think that men stay 30ish till the day they die in their 60s , 70s, or 80s? That they never become incapacitated or senile? What about old women who are trying to care for their aged husbands? Why DOES this fool seem to think that ageing is a one-way street-especially when even today, women tend to be a few years younger than their spouses?
Well, I posted this more as a dig to a bunch of TrOo LoOsers.
But seriously, one does not marry for sex. One marries to find a life-partner who will catch your back, help you achieve your goals, and be your friend.
And you marry them hoping to be the same.
Now you'll have to excuse me. I have some volleyballs to inflate and some boxing gloves to count.
Heh heh! I wrote the book!!
Funny thing is if I bring up the subject of any of the women I know over 45 who have been/are married it is unanimous that they would not do it again.
They won't tell me not to do it but they all state once is more than enough for them.
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