Yep. I want to get married for the right reasons (love, committment, children, etc.)- not because society expects me to be, or because someone falsely thinks there 'must be something wrong with her'. It's a question of marrying 'just any guy'. Call me a prude, but I don't want 'just any guy'.
I do not think you need any better explanation than that. This is not the 18th century where you get married by 20 so that you can die by 40. More than ever, quality matters.
Marriage should not be a race to some kind of societal finish line.
My life isn't perfect, but, at this point, it's the path I've chosen. And for the longest period yet, no, for the first time in my life, I'm not beating myself up for bad choices, or freaking out with hysterical loneliness.
Yeah, if you marry someone, they shouldn't be just anyone. And the more quirks, twerks and rips you have, the more quirked, twerked and ripped they need to be too....or you'll both be unhappy. Especially if you're beyond childrearing years.
Sadyly, the 'I gotta get married because I'm getting older and alone!'mantra is in both genders in my world. Where the clock is ticking towards dying alone and dying with someone else there.
Got news for you---- all humans die alone. Granted, it is wonderful to pass with someone who really loves you holding your hand. But alone is better than looking up at a big mistake as you take your last breath.
Anyhow, meeting someone is more pressured than when I was 18. It's like a job interview, rapid fire, getting down to the basics. Instead of speed dating, it's become speed marriage. Instead of sex, they want an instant companion, an instant marker to say "Hey, look! I've got someone! See, I'm OK."
~~Sigh~~
You will be all the more blessed with that attitude. I have people ask me all the time, "Why aren't you married yet?"
My answer (the wording varies): "I'll get married when I find the right woman, and not a moment before."