I appreciate that.
Dr. Laura says after 28 and that might be a good rule of thumb. In today's world, the divorce rate is high when marrying young.
Kind of interesting so I'll go on. Do you think(talking generally here) that marriages work better/less/no effect when both are the same age? I think the guy needs to be older(seasoned) to be a good provider. A lot is expected from the man and he will benefit from some "sowing of oats"(personally and professionally) while the same is not true of the woman.
I don't know the stats on that, but can say there *are* people who marry young *and* older who don't take their vows seriously.
***Kind of interesting so I'll go on. Do you think(talking generally here) that marriages work better/less/no effect when both are the same age? I think the guy needs to be older(seasoned) to be a good provider.***
How about working together? Being poor as paupers but working together to make a precious life together? My husband and I were both 30 when we married. We both had great jobs, homes, etc. But...we say now that we would have much preferred to have married younger and worked toward what we had at that time. Clear as mud?
***A lot is expected from the man and he will benefit from some "sowing of oats"(personally and professionally) while the same is not true of the woman.***
How about experiencing excellent intimacy together ... learning and experimenting together rather than practicing on other women to become proficient enough for your future wife...?! What a precious and incredibly exciting gift to give each other!
This is interesting enough to warrant a separate thread, but since we're already here...
I think a lot of it comes down to experience, not just age. My husband and I managed to sow all the oats in our late teen years, so by the time we were 21 (we were both 21 when we got married) we were ready to settle down. Maybe not settle down, but move on to the next big adventure: Real Life Adulthood. We've been married 15 years now and it just keeps getting better.
I have a sister who married a man 12 years her senior. She's very grounded, kind of wise beyond her years, and he's a bit flighty, so in a sense they compliment each other well. Like my husband and I (me? lol) they share the same values and beliefs. Like us, they have been happily married. Seventeen years, I believe.
My brother married a gal 12 years his junior and it was a disaster. As much as my family would like to believe that their marriage fell apart because of his wife's immaturity, I think the fact that my brother is an honest-to-God pig had a lot to do with it. They didn't share values or beliefs. They shared a lack of values and beliefs. Nightmare.