Hi again:
Forgive me, but I don't think you're talking about normal, average guys. I think this conversation has drifted.
It is bad, wrong, evil of anyone to in any way approach a child in any inapproapriate way. I have 2 kids. I can't express strongly enough how much I agree with you on that point.
But we were talking about average husbands on their PCs some evenings. That is not going to lead to child abuse.
Maybe we should let this conversation be, perhaps chat about it in another thread some time? It's been fun, enlightening. Given me much to think about.
You're right,
we should let it be....
but one clarification... We haven't drifted.
The molested girls are the porn stars....so any man who looks at porn is looking at a woman who was probably sexually abused at some time. Granted, not all the women, but the vast majority. Do you think a healthy woman with a health self esteem would do that for a living? Few if any.
Granted, the average men don't think in those terms...they just see T&A, boobs and butts....beavage in action....WHOO HOO!!
They see pictures....so no, none of them are molestors....
They don't realize that most, and I mean MOST of the time, those women were very damaged growing up..... So cause and effect you see.......No one wants to see how sausage is made....know one wants to know who died to get diamonds to them...no one wants to know how the actresses (and actors) are scarred in a manner that makes porn possible.
The 'personna', myth, story line is always 'She's a nympho and loves sex!'.....which means she was probably hypersexualized as a child and learned that her value was between her legs. So sex has become 'her'....all she is...
And she never got beyond it.
Even the great Jenna J. admits that she was a toy for an uncle (and her dad and brother ain't exactly prize pets towards her either).
So her 'hotness' is a scar.....bizarre ain't it?
I know the mentality on both sides of the equasion. I guess I just put names on the faces and imagine why they are there....and it always hurts. It hurts like critter loving me seeing a friend abuse an animal....it puts up a wall.
And THAT is why I couldn't be married to a man who regularly looked at porn....
It would mean he was too shallow to see how those people were created, and that it could easily have been me (if my will to survive hadn't kicked in I guess).