You live in the same town, work the same job, hang out in the same hobby/social circle, go to the same church, are married to relatives etc.etc.etc.
It’s not saying ‘OMIGOD! He is my BEST friend in the whole word forever!’ it is saying that you can have he and his wife over for a cookout with all your other friends. Or call him to for to ask a question about Cub scouts. Or chat for 5 minutes in the Kroger checkout line. It means you’re better friends than you ever were lovers.
>>You live in the same town, work the same job, hang out in the same hobby/social circle, go to the same church, are married to relatives etc.etc.etc.<<
In my personal case, we both left that church. I went to a different one and she just stopped going. When we DO meet, I don’t want to even give her eye contact unless we are REQUIRED to discuss something. It happens very rarely now that our three daughters are in their 20’s.
But more importantly, I don’t want my wife to be in the same room with me and a woman we both know I had sex with any more than absolutely necessary. It is out of respect for her that I do this.
I always say that one of the worst things that can happen to a divorced woman who is still trying to keep her ex engaged to some degree is for him to remarry. Once that happens, the ex and his current wife are like Jews and Arabs. And if they are not, they SHOULD be.
I base this on what I know and believe about base human nature.