Spoken like a true niave minuteman.
Selfless means to ndo something no matter the benefit to onesself. It does not mean one cannot be selfless if they get something out of it. It means the benefit or not maters nothing in why one does something.
We are not all selfless. For instance, I am taking the time to help you understand the truth, rather than the fallacy you are presenting. It benefits me nothing for you to be educated, yet I am using my time to assist you.
You might point out that doing so makes me feel better about myself.
That could not be further from the truth. I care nothing about how instructing you makes me feel. Your life will not affect me in any manner, so even if I cared about others’ feelings, yours would not be considered in the least.
IT guys are not the pocket-protecting geeks of 1950. We are the guys who study how women function, know what motivates them, and who steal your girlfriend while you are at Gold’s Gym trying to impress your buddies with your arm size.
More importantly, we IT guys love to read technical manuals. M & J is a great book for the IT guy. We read it like we do the WIndows Vista installation manual.
Oh, and IT guys get paid more on average than any other field...the richest man in the world is what? An IT guy.
“It means the benefit or not maters nothing in why one does something.”
If you don’t think every male, everywhere, who has any interest in pleasing women, doesn’t do so to benefit themselves, I’ve got a bridge to sell you. It’s not that “we are not all selfless”. None of us are. None.
If you want to come up with another term, a term that explains *mostly* not caring about the outcome—call it strategic altruism or enlgihtened non-self-interest. But don’t sully the English language by dubbing sensitive lovers “selfless”.
Oh, and if you haven’t figured out by now that money and a steady career aren’t the most important things to bedding (and pleasing) a woman—especially when you’re young, i.e. when it’s most important—I don’t know what to tell you. Also, sex is not one of the things in life that can be learned in a book. It takes practice. And you know who gets practice? Guys who don’t have to read manuals, be they bodybuilders or internet technicians.
As far as the whole “pickup artist” phenomenon goes, sure, those guys started out as nerds. They studied. And they consistently beat natural alpha-male types. But did they win the day by being selfless? Hell no. They won the day by studying the naturals, co-opting their moves, and practicing, practicing, practicing.
“the richest man in the world is what? An IT guy”
That’s a bit of a stretch. He deals in computers, yes, but he’s an entreprenuer and a CEO, not an IT guy. Oh, and I bet some sultan in Dubai or somewhere has more money, and a ton of chicks.