I've been reading this thread, thinking I feel no sorrow for this lady, but not having words to explain why...thank you for helping me find them.
There's a saying in sales that you can't sell anything to anyone, you can just help them buy.
There's another saying...you can't con a honest person.
She got what she asked for...too bad for her it's not what she wanted.
Were I to feel some form of sorrow or pity or sympathy for her, it would require first that I consider her an innocent bystander in her own life. That would be immoral, IMO.
It is what it is. I have no sympathy for those who've p!$$ed in the well, and now don't like the way the coffee tastes.
You know, when women are young, unless they have a parent with a strong religious or philosophically pro-family background, they will absorb the lessons of the popular culture about what is good and desirable.
Yes, this woman had a choice. But she may not have had both sides presented to her fairly.
About ten years ago, I met a woman about my age while I was traveling with an NGO in a third world country. She was a member of the upper class. She was religious, but as an educated woman, she was very influenced by “modern” ideas, mostly emanating from Europe.
She became teary eyed when I told her I had six children. She said she had only had two, because in her schooling, she had been trained to think that that was the “modern” way to do things, and that only by limiting family size could her country advance. Not having more children was one of the biggest regrets of her life. She was choosing between what she thought were two “goods.” It wasn’t her fault that she was presented with a false choice.