I don’t think it’s stress actually that changes us. We can handle many kinds of stress, but abandonment or abuse by a parent seems to alter us. That stress is very damaging to children.
I had bone cancer at age 5, my leg amputated at age 7, and lots of other stresses and stuff by others, but my parents loved me and each other. I turned out okay.
I’d be the first to say I’m different, but in the end I believe we have the life we create for ourselves. I’m fairly normal in most ways. ;o]
Emphasis added. God bless you.