DYGI?
your being a little terse there,... when bfl is actually sent to someone instead of having a ‘none’ recipienent , then it is actually pretty rude to include someone else as the recipient for your reminders and to-do list.
BFL
While I agree that it’s rude to address a ‘bfl’ to someone, I’d suspect that it’s a case of the person neglecting/forgetting to clear the ‘to’ box.
I usually don’t assume malice without some basis for it.