[mom4melody]

I agree.

I was rasied in foster care, and, I’m an adoptive parent of two Chinese children who will likely never know the circumstances of their births.

Parenting comes from the heart, not the uterus.

[brytlea]

For the most part I agree, altho I think there is a natural curiosity about your ancestors. My mother was very interested in family history and spent her life researching it. It was always fun when she found out about people we didn’t know we were related to.
But, in addition, there can be medical reasons to want to know close family relationships. Of course, with DNA science where it is that may be less and less important.

[Clintons Are White Trash]

I'm sure you've seen this before but I'll post it for others. I had this framed and hanging for my husbands children that I raised to see.

Not flesh of my flesh, nor bone of my bone
But still, miraculously, my own
Never forget for a single minute
You grew not under my heart, but in it

[exDemMom]

Parenting comes from the heart, not the uterus.

Absolutely true.

I've often read statements by adoptees that they want to find their biological families because, well, the people who raised them were nice enough, but they weren't their "real" families, and they never felt like they belonged with those people.

I'd counter by saying that the feeling of never belonging has nothing to do with biological relatedness. I've felt that way all my life, and aside from miraculously discovering that babies were switched at the hospital on the day of my birth, I have the certain knowledge that I *am* related to those people.

While there may be valid reasons to want to find one's birth parents, feeling like you never were a real part of the adoptive family shouldn't be one of them.