Nonsense. For a man to fill the role of a pastor, one of the most basic, baseline requirements is that he leads his own family well. That requires him to have a family. If he doesn't, then there's no reason to think he can lead a church (I Tim. 3:5). There are a lot of single men who perhaps have exemplary personal lives - but that does not make them qualified for the pastorate. Seriously, the Scripture is pretty clear on this matter - I don't see what is so hard to figure out about it.
So is singleness a gift?
I Tim. 3:5 — For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?
I don’t believe a man has to be married to know how to rule his own house. Ruling your own house can relate to many things other than just marriage.
Additionally, some of the disciples Jesus chose were single. Therefore, I am okay with it.
Those comments appear to be speaking as to the qualities of an overseer, or deacon who is married and do not make an injunction against being single; if they did, then Paul himself, as well as many others could NOT have been leaders in the early church.