Read post #43, frankly I don’t care what you believe, not my problem. But, it makes perfect sense. When young girls get molested they are more likely to become sexually promiscuous. And/or drink and drug abuser to avoid the pain. Anytime a child is molested it seriously messes up their thinking and understanding of sex and their own self worth. As soon as it happens even for very young children, they know it’s wrong and their is a feeling of shame, confusion and worthlessness. I was 4 years old when a relative molested me, it only happened one time, that’s all it takes. I remember how I felt. It’s a horrible thing to do to a child.
Is is a horrible thing to do to a child and I am saddened to the depths of my humanity by your experience. I don't expect my thoughts to matter to you. I haven't earned that right.
I responded to a post that said all, that's all, as in 100%, as in every single one, of gay men had been molested as a child. I said I didn't believe that and I let it drop at that.
I read post #43 by little jeremiah as you suggested. I can believe that Post #43 could be true, but it doesn't say all gay men were molested as a child; it says 80%. I don't ask that my belief matter to you. It's hard to express emotion in text, but please know that I say that with humility and not in any cocky sense.
I would, however, like you to know that you and your experience matter to me as a fellow human being. Although I can never understand your pain, I've experienced no small amount of pain today from your disclosure. I don't believe anyone ever heals from the experience of molestation, but I wish you all of the continued healing that is possible.
Now all I want to do is to hold my children and tell them I love them.