When my son and his wife were preparing for marriage, I reminded my son that our family does not do the cake smashing routine. He told his future wife that they would not be doing that after cutting the cake. I don’t think she was happy about our “tradition”, but she accepted that it wasn’t going to happen.
I cannot even count the number of family and friends that came up to me later to tell me that they were so happy to see a non-cake-smashing event during the cutting of the wedding cake.
And I would have been first in line to shake your hand.
Thanks for your post, and your "old-fashioned" commitment to honor your spouse.