I’ll go against the grain! My wife is the only daughter, and she lived and grew up in New Jersey. I thought the wedding was over the top and too much money was being spent. But her mom told me it was their money and to to stay out of it! (Nicely though!) Limo, big reception, lots of bridesmaids, a decent dress, etc. In a small town church where we both were members.
It wasn’t a “money is no option thing”, but I grew up in the Midwest, so was used to a reception in the church basement with meatballs, three bean salad and jello. Spending $35 per person for a reception was just foolish I thought. It was quite the deal when all my relatives flew out for a long weekend of rehearsal dinners, partys, and the wedding. They weren’t used to it either.
We all had a great time! 22 years ago this fall. (And no cake mashing either. Although a bit of frosting did get on my finger, which I touched to her nose - and then promptly cleaned up with the napkin in my other hand).
THAT’s adorable...and sounds like something my hubby would have done, if we wouldn’t have gone for utterly no frills JotP.