Considering that men also have need to use the toilet seat in the down position, there is no reason to not leave it there. So, it’s used in the down position more than half the time anyway. The man can also benefit from that little thoughtful act on his part.
Whatever happened to men thinking of their wives on occasion. Knowing that the next person using the toilet is likely to need it down, common courtesy could kick in.
Lighten up, Frances.