[cherry]

some men LIKE to fantasize that what they want is what women want...

its sociopathy...its narcissism...its projection....

like the men who always claim that the woman "wanted it" , after punching her out and raping her...

like OJ simpson....who claimed that it was his tiny , petite ex wife who actually was the batterer...

[PapaBear3625]

Explain the high sales numbers of "Grey" among women, if the buyers are not into that kind of fantasy?

I'm not saying ALL women are into that. I'm saying that a sufficient number of women are into that to create a lucrative market for "Grey" and the "bodice ripper" genre of women's novels. Look as far back as the hugely popular 1936 novel "Gone With The Wind", with the dark, dominating protagonist Rhett Butler, which was predominantly bought by women.

[PapaBear3625]

I would also add that just because someone fantasizes about something, or likes reading or watching a movie about something, does not necessarily mean that they want to actually experience it in real life, not under their control. Just because people like watching a movie about Jason slashing up the neighborhood doesn't mean they would want to experience it for real.

Even in the book, the woman is only PLAY ACTING at being submissive. She retains the option of, at any time, saying "OK, this isn't fun any more, I'm going home and don't want to see you any more, bye".