This was in a very liberal state up north. Women (having drunk the Kool Aid about men being liars and predators) tended to view any kind of accomplishments out of the ordinary as “just another line of bovine scat from another loser and predator”. The culture in this state (Minnesota) had as one of its characteristics “how dare you do better than average/mediocre”. Maybe the women viewed the mediocre office drone as having more “stability”. Perceptions are a funny thing. It makes “resume deflation” in certain social circles (and I don’t mean homeless bums, welfare recipients, and all that) a necessary tactic.
You have a good money making career, you just need to know how to find the description that makes it sing to a woman.
Tell them what you do and do not merely leave it at “self-employed”, avoid that phrase entirely, tell them about your work, the contracts, the demands, sound like a man who is as busy as your description of 60 hour weeks sounds.
Women respect work, and you work, tell them about it.