The real issue isn’t whether there are distinctive challenges in rearing adopted children or internationally adopted children. Maybe there are.
The point is that the man in the situation described simply was not willing to love in a Christlike way. He was afraid marriage to the woman with adopted children would ask more of him than he was willing to give. Many people have this attitude in marriage, about all kinds of issues - illness, job loss, children (including their own natural children), simple fidelity - “This is asking too much of me.”
From the standpoint of Christian witness, the problem is that Pat Robertson finds this attitude perfectly acceptable, just as he found it acceptable that a man should divorce a wife who was no longer of use to him. This is not Christianity. Christianity calls each person to love sacrificially, to give more than is humanly possible. Yes, we all fall short, over and over again, but a Christian minister should never say, “God doesn’t even expect you to try.”
I think the woman in the example is much better off not having married a man who didn’t love her. If he hadn’t fixed on the adopted children as an excuse, he’d probably have found something else and really left her in the lurch.
“The point is that the man in the situation described simply was not willing to love in a Christlike way. He was afraid marriage to the woman with adopted children would ask more of him than he was willing to give. Many people have this attitude in marriage, about all kinds of issues - illness, job loss, children (including their own natural children), simple fidelity - “This is asking too much of me.””
This. Thank you.