It’s fascinating to me that you neglected to mention that the ‘reformer’ in this dense series is a 22 year old virgin.
I found it completely laughable and unbelievable and to suggest that it was some desire breed from ‘love’ that healed Mr. Grey is silly. It was more along the lines of a young girl being obsessed with the feeling this dipwad inspired in her. I could go on but honestly, I’m more than bored with these hokey books.
I found her writing to be extremely juvenile and the plot completely unrealistic. Not creative in the least and her constant use of the same phrases revealed her want to shock more than her desire to craft a brilliant story.
But hey, if you found some message in this tripe, good for you.
Whether the relationship is "love" or an "obsession" is, IMO, certainly open to debate. The character feels it is love, but I think there are also sufficient grounds to label it an obsession.
This old lady read the first book and found it so tedious and boring I didn’t bother with the other two.