I joke about it.. I always thought I did as much to damage my marriage as she did.. She was and is a fine lady, and we are great friends today.. I prepare dinner for her most Sundays..
that’s a lot of healing....knowing that I now see the real humor in your original post.
during my divorce I used to dream of beating my ex to death with a softball bat. I know that sounds really extreme but it was so very satisfying. All these years later we get along well enough to have dinner in a public place or eat at our daughter’s house for the holidays.
And yeah I did at least as much damage to the marriage as my ex did.