Congratulations on coming around, but it's no wonder you supported Romney. He didn't come to that conclusion himself until he decided it was his "turn" to be President.
I confess that I don't personally have a very strong opinion on gays in the military. If the military leadership said, "we can't do this, it would hurt morale, discipline, etc.", I would support them. The current military leadership (and I certainly understand those who believe that they are illegitimate or somehow compromised in being able to express the truth) seems to be OK with it, so I'm probably OK with it.
If you believe that, and you truly do believe as you said that gay "marriage" is really okay. you're posting on the wrong forum. Take a look at the purpose of this website -- pro-God, pro-family.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1103363/posts
Maybe so . . . I think I agree with most Freepers on most things, but if the fact that I'm not particularly concerned one way or the other whether grown men and women who have sex with each other (respectively) want to get "married" or serve in the military disqualifies me from posting here, then so be it, I'll have to find another forum.