Yes its the woman who got pregnant but please stop blaming the woman!! Unless she was the Virgin Mary a man did this to her.
Please stop letting men get off scott free.
You know I never knew how much society has changed till I listened to some youtube clips by Dr. Judith Reisman. In one clip she was talking about how a man could be arrested for whispering “sweet nothings” in a woman’s ear! Think of that! Arrested for saying things considered obscene. Well you can thank Dr. Kinsey for the end of that.
Do I feel that men should be arrested for saying “sweet nothings” in a woman’s ear? Well I not that extreme plus we here at Free Republic would never get Laz out of jail.
We should however hold men responsible in that a lot of them get more women pregnant than the number of babies the women are actually having. Think of that. The man in Tenn. He has 29? Okay how many women you know other than Mrs. Duggard has 29 babies? (mind you Mrs. Duggard is married) Now how many more men are like that? They go from woman to woman and get her pregnant. They in fact have more “babies” than the women. They are the ones who need to be stopped. Do as Barney Fiffe says “nip it in the bud, Andy nip it in the bud”
I’m not “blaming” the woman. Anyone who has sex outside marriage is equally to “blame.” I’m simply saying that the result is a pregnant woman, not a pregnant man, and therefore any policy aimed at reducing out-of-wedlock births has to be aimed at changing women’s behavior.
As you pointed out, a man with no income can have dozens of children with dozens of mothers, and no amount of “blaming” him will rear those children with two responsible parents. He doesn’t have the income to take.
Could we, as a society, forcibly sterilize every man who fathers a child on a woman not his wife? Yes, I suppose we could. However, I don’t want the government to have that kind of power. Options that don’t rely on forcible sterilizaton or long-term incarceration of sperm-donors have to be based in changing women’s decisions ... because like it or not, the women have the babies.
If you don’t like this reasoning, please suggest another solution. Maybe it’s there and I just don’t see it.
No one is letting the men off in terms of responsibility, but, ultimately, it is the woman who has the power. If there were more who had the self respect to wait until marriage, we would have a much better society now.
“a man did this to her”
you make it sound like she had no choice in the matter, to have sex, to have sex without being on the pill, or demanding the guy use some, she’s just a helpless waif that can’t be held accountable for the poor choice she made to permit the man to do that to her.
women are active sexual participants today, not passive little wallflowers. they are just as sexually aggressive today than any guy, becuase they’ve been told don’t wait, sleep around, experiment now, birth control abounds, and abortion is legal if that fails, and if they happen to want the kid they can get govt bennies for it so they don’t even need to have a relationship with the guy,’much less even consider marrying him.