Before the fact? Know what hours a girl is most likely to get pregnant? The hours right after school to 6pm when parents, both mom and dad get home from work. Both parents are being forced to work to pay bills that mom can no longer be at home. I realize this is not true for all mothers, but it is for a majority.
Yes, before the fact, like having a discusison with your child about sexual activity on multiple occasions during their pre-teeen and teen years... Like I have done.
Talking does work, even when they roll their eyes and say “But Dad...”, and I respond with “But nothing...”.
It is a parents responsibility to communicate, not just threaten.
I’m the daddy, I take responsibility for my children. And yes, that leads to yelling and punishments on occation, but it also leads to “Your the greatest dad ever.” from my daughter and, “Thanks dad, I was wrong.” from my son.
I hand out praise just as easily as punishment, both where warented. And while I’m no where near perfect by any means or stretch of the imagination, I do try to be fair.
So I repeat myself... Where were these parents BEFORE the fact?
And yes, I would be the typical outraged father looking for a pound of flesh too, but I’d also talk.
"Forced?" As in, forced to select a house they can't afford, forced to obtain a mortgage; forced to buy a car with a car loan; forced to use credit cards; forced to pay for cable tv, extra computers, toys, restaurant food, wardrobes, vacations...
The awful truth is for most working moms, choosing a lifestyle that isn't possible on one income is the reason they work.
That and the fact that many men today also choose higher lifestyles than their incomes can support, so they too, contribute to the fact that the mothers of their children seek employment rather than tend to the most important job in the world, raising their own children!
Many couples have never grown out of their own childhoods of wanting to have all of the "bells and whistles" their own parents provided them, so even when they decide to have families of their own, find that they need two incomes to buy everything they see TV families having regardless of their ability to pay for it, so they put buying "stuff" over the responsibility of caring for their young.
It is really rare in America, for mothers to be "forced to work" for the family to eat.