It may have something to do with the fact I've been married 3 times, and now waiting to find my 4th ex-wife. ;)
/johnny
Hah, I told my daughters after their 2cnd divorce, that they’d probably be happier if they just got on with their lives and concentrated on raising their children.
If you can’t accept your significant other warts and all, that’s a big problem. Most people get married and immediately start trying to change their spouse. This is not only annoying - it is not intelligent.
The only person’s behavior you can really control is your own. So instead of trying to force your spouse into what ever pretzel you want, just decide what you will do to live happily with it.
If you can’t live with it, fish or cut bait. You also better figure out how you missed the trait to begin with so the next one doesn’t have it.Works for most stuff anyway.