Yes, it is absolutely physically possible for a 7-year-old male to get and maintain an erection. The rest of the process does not exactly “work” as if it were a mature male. Shocking, I know, but it’s very, very true.
As for the abuse continuing for a few years and then stopping. That is not unheard of either. MOST people in abusive situations may do things that sound very abnormal to those of us in normal situations, but they are only mimicking or acting out abuse - behaving normally given that they are in an abnormal environment to begin with.
However, some of those children do grow up and when they reach the age of accountability and realize what they are doing, and learn that the behavior is inappropriate they can stop the behavior. They will likely carry guilt, but they can stop and never abuse again — if they aren’t too far gone already.
Gosh, I really wish I didn’t know so much about this...
“Gosh, I really wish I didn’t know so much about this...”
and thanks to Kinsey you do! We all do and we don’t want to know!!
In the case I am speaking of a 30 something married mother of 3 went to inner healing at her church and came out convinced her older brother raped her repeatedly when she was 5 and he 6. He continued this behaviour for a couple years then ignored her sexually. The girl now hates her brother and has cut herself off from her parents as well because they “let the abuse happen” to her and ruined her life. The parents are still married (40 years) and in love with their grandchildren who they have also been cut off from. They don’t know what to believe but feel their life is ruined as well.
I have been talking to the girl’s mother and have told her that my feeling is that the boy would not have stopped the behaviour if he was physically capable of it and would have felt empowered to continue it forever, and that we don’t know where these memories came from suddenly. There is such a thing as false memory.
Now I’m wondering if I am wrong in my thinking.
You wish you didn’t know so much about this, yet you still tell everyone?