Fine. Then perhaps the husband needs to be part of the next pastoral visit or counseling session. To this point, he has refused. He knows his wife knows about the porn. They've had conversations. He knows it's a problem, and has "tried to stop with his own efforts." That hasn't worked and he isn't willing yet to do anything else, besides continue wallowing in the gutter.
Could there be "more" to the story? Are there "issues" between this couple that need resolving? Undoubtedly so. But the article is not purporting to be about THE COUPLE seeking help. Only SHE did. Had they come to the author/counselor together seeking intervention and advice, I could see your point and understand your questions delving into further issues. But the husband has chosen NOT to take part. The author/counselor is left with the correct decision to give advice to the ADULT who DID seek help.
“He knows it’s a problem, and has “tried to stop with his own efforts.” “
These are important. He *is* trying. The job of the article is to find an effective way of helping him to overcome. I don’t think there’s anything helpful in this article.
“The author/counselor is left with the correct decision to give advice to the ADULT who DID seek help.”
Unfortunately the help he gave won’t resolve the issue. That’s my problem with it. Do I know the answer to the question of: “What does he want?” no, no I don’t - which is why the wife needs to find this out.