I have lost several friends who went over to "play for the other side." They were uniformily from homes where the father was absent, absent emotionally, or abusive. The behavior began small, after they were recruited. They started out being liberals, theater majors, readers, academics or any of a dozen different things,
who happened to be gay. In every case, the homosexual activity grew, and grew, and grew, until they defined themselves as
GAY MENwho happened to be liberals, theater majors, readers, academics or any of a dozen different things. The CHOSEN lifestyle eclipsed everything they were before, they became exclusively defined by it. And as you may have experienced, the Gayity was in the end their core. It was impossible to say "You are smart, clever, and a nice person, but I disagree with this part of your behavior" because to disagree with them was to reject them, and a "hate crime" because there was nothing left of who they used to be. I witnessed to one fellow about how alcohol ran my life and helped me avoid dealing with my childhood anger and pain until Christ freed my spirit by forgiving me...and was told if I ever spoke to him again, he would have a restraining order served on me. (Of course, he worked for Legal Aid..."protecting" the downtrodden, because any time you have trouble in your life, it is the fault of someone else.)
Once it was "the love that dare not speak its name", today it is "the love that will not shut the hell up."